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Redefining the Dream Relationship
A “great relationship” means you have nearly everything in common, you think and feel the same way about nearly everything and you enjoy nearly all the same stuff. Crazy shit! Where the hell did all this come from? Disney? It’s just nuts. And when we start to find out this isn’t true, we start to judge the other person and question what we’re even doing in that relationship. Years ago a friend of mine suggested this: “Write down on paper every single thing that you think would be the perfect woman and relationship.” After scribbling the first two pages (front and back) and wanting to go on and on, I stopped and looked over what I’d written. I started laughing because I realized…. this description wasn’t of a human being! I’d described a West World robot. And I realized on the spot that the map I had in my mind about the person and the relationship had been unconsciously planted there (by aliens, presumably!). Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
Know Your Basics to Achieve Your Bottom Line
We all have moments when life presents some time-consuming challenges that make our plans unworkable. In fact, that happens often! A sick child, a broken ankle, a friend in need, our own needs. Our ability to “shift” or “adapt” and recalculate what’s doable and what’s not is going to save us from trying to do too much and fail. We have to ask “In light of what just popped up, what’s reasonable for me?” Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
Inspired to be Human
So much of what I see in the area of “inspiring” podcast and presentations are based on one dominant model—“the “Businessman.” And while I love them, they can feel burdensome after a while. I’ve walked away from some of them saying to myself “What the fuck. This guy is a billionaire meeting with the Dalai Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
A Lesson in Linearity
As a teenager and young man, my reaction to emotional pain was to pull any lesson, any value, that I could from it. “If I can at least learn something,” I’d tell myself, “then this isn’t pointless suffering.” I began at some point to believe that if I learned “the truth” over time, I would be free of pain and suffering, that my life would just be joy and free of any pain or suffering. That’s what I subconsciously believed. And I brought that expectation of myself with me into relationships with girls and women. Which became me judging them and trying to get them to see what I was seeing, to know what I knew. “If only,” I’d tell myself, “they saw this thing another way (the way I see it), they’d be happy.” Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
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