Going All In
I’ve noticed a pattern and tendency in my life: there is a wedge between holding back and going all in. In some instances, I’m looking at the finish line and letting up. In other cases, I’m frustrated by a challenge, and I let...
The Wounded Warrior
The wounded warrior goes at life alone, striving to overcome adversaries by himself. He is driven by the unconscious need to prove himself and to prove he deserves love. In that way, he is chasing love— a love which is always out of reach...
Fueled by Commitment
How often have you failed to attain something, and then blamed someone or certain circumstances for falling short? We all do it. Recently, I was hoping to be hired by a new client, but he decided not to hire us. Oh well. It’s his decision and...
Unapparent Thoughts
Thoughts and feelings flow through us from sources that are not always apparent. We all have very common core beliefs, many of which are not even conscious. Some of them create momentum in our lives, and some of them don’t. The ones that don’t...
The Source of Love
An elephant will stand still, believing it is trapped, when a rope tethers it loosely to a stake in the ground. It can easily pull the stake out and walk free, but its belief that it cannot will keep it trapped in its place. Settling is a great...
Expectations of Ethics
Ever assume that those around you have the same ethical views you do, only to be disappointed and maybe even hurt when they don’t? Yeah. We all have! Here’s the thing that I keep learning: the ethical paths that we adopt are for us, not those...
Judging vs. Accepting
I find there are two modes of experiencing someone: judging or accepting. When I’m judging, my mind goes to work comparing and contrasting, which is what the mind is for. The mind is a problem solver; it looks at similarities and...
Do What Matters to You– No Matter What
How qualified do we need to be to do what matters to us? So many inspirational podcasts and postings involve billionaires with disruptive industry-changing solutions, or people who have done some of the most extraordinary things that people can...
Millennials- Where Did These Creatures Come From?
One of the best examples of what happens when our tendency to categorize and generalize runs amok is the identification of the group of people our culture calls “Millennials.” They’re imbued with certain strictly negative...
Solving the Problem of Problem Solving
Problem solving is a such an integral and fulfilling part of life. I love being confronted with a challenge, something to navigate. It gives me a problem to solve which always feels like a big accomplishment. It often involves helping someone...
Creating a New Outcome
When I identify a goal very specially, the gap between me and that goal always seems to close. I’m very good at wandering in life, reading signs and signals, and observing where energy is flowing. Only in recent years have I noticed how...
Recharging
One of the things I’ve come to learn that has changed the game for me is that we’re all sort of like batteries. We have to know what charges us and then do that…regularly! Otherwise, we run low and have the usual signs and signals or being...