If we want choices in life, if we want to create the life of our dreams, we must master ourselves. And the foundation of that is realizing two things: (1) we create our own emotional experience in life all the time. Nothing and no one else...
As a teenager and young man, my reaction to emotional pain was to pull any lesson, any value, that I could from it. “If I can at least learn something,” I’d tell myself, “then this isn’t pointless suffering.” I began at some point to believe...
So much of what I see in the area of “inspiring” podcast and presentations are based on one dominant model—“the “Businessman.” And while I love them, they can feel burdensome after a while. I’ve walked away from some of them saying to myself...
We all have moments when life presents some time-consuming challenges that make our plans unworkable. In fact, that happens often! A sick child, a broken ankle, a friend in need, our own needs. Our ability to “shift” or “adapt” and recalculate...
A “great relationship” means you have nearly everything in common, you think and feel the same way about nearly everything and you enjoy nearly all the same stuff. Crazy shit! Where the hell did all this come from? Disney? It’s just nuts. And...
When I was a kid, I looked for people who had the same interests. As a teenager, a common questions was: “What music do you like?” That was the measure of whether I might like the person. As I got older (ok, a lot older), I noticed something: ...
The challenges I’ve faced in my life demanded that I become a good student of myself and of life. There was simply no way that I was gonna find my way out of the tangle of my own mind without being both interested and committed to doing...
One of the best gifts I received from shamans is the ability to view things from an energetic point of view rather than a personal one. Being in a personal perspective can be fun, but there’s a price to pay. I may enjoy the drama, the identity...
In this world, we have two choices: Make your own mind the center or your life or… Make something bigger (and more enjoyable than that) the center The shamans taught me: There were things more vast, enjoyable and powerful than my own mind To grow...
Our self-criticism often elicits a strong reaction to oppose it. The trouble is that opposition itself is energetic food. It makes the opposed thing stronger. We all have the same challenge of what we can call loving ourselves, which doesn’t...
I’ve got nothing at all against a good cup of coffee or a drink with my wife or friends. That’s part of what makes life sweet. The part of that which confuses me though is the haste with which we tend to run towards a cup of coffee or a drink as...
Ever notice how you sometimes lie there in bed right after waking up, ruminating on the same sort of thoughts? I have so much to do today I’m so overwhelmed I have to do “x” and I don’t feel like doing it… Whatever your thoughts may be, there is...
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